Oral Sex

Oral sex is fairly low risk in terms of catching HIV but some men have been infected this way. No one knows exactly how risky oral sex is, partly because most men who perform oral sex will also have anal sex as well. Very few men whose only risk is from oral sex have become HIV positive, which leads us to believe that the risk is relatively low, but a few have been infected which indicates that there is some risk. The UK's Health Protection Agency estimates that between 1 – 3% of HIV cases are orally transmitted. It's worth remembering that oral sex is the most frequent of gay sexual acts, so it is significant that relatively so few cases are believed to be as a result of oral sex.

The reason that oral sex is so much safer than anal sex is that the throat is not as vulnerable to infection as the anus is. Saliva has properties that can disable some infections, including HIV, and so there needs to be quite a lot of HIV present for infection to take place. Also, the mouth and throat are not as efficient at absorbing liquids into the bloodstream as the lining of the anus is. Even if you swallow cum, any HIV that may be there will usually be killed by the strong acids in your stomach.

Although the HIV risk from oral sex is relatively low, there are ways that you can reduce the risk further. It's extremely unlikely that you could catch HIV from giving someone oral sex if they don't cum in your mouth. Although there is HIV in the pre-cum of a HIV positive man, there is less than there is in his cum. This is because a man will generally produce more cum than he does pre-cum, and because cum has a higher concentration of HIV than pre-cum. The protective properties in saliva would usually be able to disable the amount of HIV that there is in pre-cum. A condom, used correctly, will prevent either cum or pre-cum getting in the mouth, although few gay men in the UK currently use condoms for oral sex.

You will be more vulnerable to infections if you have bleeding, scratched or damaged gums, mouth ulcers or a sore throat. People with gum disease or ulcers will be more likely to catch HIV or other infections from oral sex. It may be wise to avoid brushing your teeth just before giving someone oral sex, particularly if you want him to cum in your mouth. Using a mouthwash immediately before or immediately after oral sex will remove the protective properties that saliva contains and so may increase the risk of transmission.
Although the risk of HIV infection is fairly low, some other STIs can be easily passed via oral sex, such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes or syphilis. These risks can be avoided by using a condom for oral sex; however condoms are hardly ever used for oral sex in the adult industry. There is a small risk of picking up hepatitis B through oral sex, if you have not been vaccinated. If you have an existing STI in your throat you will be more vulnerable to infection and the chances of picking up HIV or hepatitis B are increased.

Getting sucked

There is no risk of catching HIV from someone sucking your cock, although you may be vulnerable to other STIs, such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes and syphilis. This is because all of these STIs are much more infectious than HIV. Regular sexual health check-ups will help identify any infections you may pick up and these can be detected and treated quickly.